Goals are tough. It can be difficult to bring yourself to set them. But majority of the time, it’s most difficult to actually attempt achieving them and follow through.
I am the type of person who likes to set goals. I am usually very excited about the goals I set.
However, when I am almost able to reach the goal, like 90% of the time, I give up. Any tips to help me push through the last 10%.
~ Apprehensive Allie in Atlanta
Lauren, today’s Dear Ellie columnist, breaks it down for us:
Dear Goal Setter,
I believe in goal-setting and might be considered a goal-setting addict. On New Year’s Eve, most people are excited to drink champagne and dance the night away. Not me; I’m eagerly awaiting the following day so I can break out my new journal and set new intentions for the upcoming year. Did I say that I love goals?
Give yourself a big hug for setting goals and being diligent enough to complete 90% of them. Now, let’s get you across that finish line.
Every year I set the goal of getting in shape and eating healthy. It’s horrible because it is way too broad. Have you ever heard of a SMART goal? Specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time-based. Instead of my original plan, I may reframe it into this: I will walk 12,000 steps a day, each morning, 80% of the month, and track it with my iWatch. Check your intentions and see if they fall in line with the SMART parameters. If not, try reformulating them. I think attainable is the key word in this acronym. We want to make sure you set yourself up for success.
Next, I want you to be very honest with yourself and answer a few questions. Try to move past the first answer that comes up and ask yourself, ‘and what else’ to dig deeper.
- Why do you set goals?
- Do you expect to achieve your goals? If the answer is no, why?
- Are you afraid to achieve your goals? If so, why?
Knowing your why is key. If you start a goal not expecting to achieve it, you will self-sabotage until you give up. The last question resonates with me. I am going through a significant career shift, and some of my goals are very lofty; and I haven’t broken them down into SMART intentions, so they seem daunting. I’m afraid of the unknown and catch myself ‘spinning’ when I think of the what-ifs. The outcome; I stay paralyzed in fear to stay in my comfort zone.
I have saved the best for last. I’ve been on a Mel Robinson kick and am eating up her Audible series called Start Here. Episode 7 is for you! It’s a no-nonsense, 30-minute gem on goal setting. She distinguishes between dreams and intentions, and sets HARD goals, which is another acronym to break down your objectives into achievable nuggets. I won’t recap her thirty-minute talk in this article, but I will say it’s worth listening to and the best news; it’s free with an Audible subscription.
To summarize, something is holding you back. It could be creating goals that are not attainable, or it could be fear. I do not doubt that you will move through the last 10% once you address the issue. I’m not going to tell you that the process will be easy, but if you are savvy enough to invest in yourself by creating goals, I know you have the determination to see them through!
Hugs + Lashes,
Ellie + Lauren