Q: How do I move forward after losing my job?

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One of the most stressful and saddening things to happen at a job is to lose it. Especially when there is nothing you could have done differently. Just know, you will get past those feelings and move on to something better.

Dear Ellie,

Recently, my company was downsized. Unfortunately, I was one of those folks who lost their job.

I am struggling to find the confidence to get back out. I am not sure how to professionally move forward to a new job.

~ Down-In-The-Dumps Diane

Kay, today’s Dear Ellie columnist, has just the pep-talk we all need:

Hey Strong Spirit,

First off, I am SO sorry.

I am sure (and hope) you have been hearing this often, and that you’ve felt the love and support during something like this.

It’s harder than people make it sound, and can really shake you to your core.

I actually lost my job in 2020 due to the pandemic’s impact on the company and I worked at. So, the advice I’m about to delve into are some of the lessons I learned the hard way…

Number one…don’t take losing your job personally. This might sounds harsh, but it was strictly a business decision. It had NOTHING to do with who you are, what you bring to the table, or what you are capable of.

Next, is to take this time to strengthen your relationships.

Pssst – this includes with yourself.

Once you do start applying for different jobs, or are getting approached, don’t say “yes” to the very first offer you get. Don’t rush yourself in the process of picking your next job.

It can feel really pressing, and like your hand is forced, but there are always options. Trust your gut!

Last but not least, own your story. Keep reminding yourself that this experience is indeed a chapter in your story.

Think back to the last super painful thing that happened to you. Realize how it feels like a memory as opposed to an intense guttural experience? This will also feel like that soon.

And to finish off…it’s going to be okay!

You’re going to be okay.

And I PROMISE, you’ll get out the other end and realize that this happened for your benefit.

Hugs + Lashes,

Ellie + Kay

Kay Transtrum

Kay is a creative marketing junkie, hiking and kayaking junkie, and band geek. Helping others feel seen and heard, and to know that they are truly not alone in their journey, is Kay's mission in life.


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