Ever find yourself frustrated at work?
We’ve all been there, and it’s no easy thing to figure out how to design our future. Let’s see what today’s question has to say on the topic.
It seems like no matter what I do at work, I’m overlooked and losing opportunities.
What do I do?
I don’t want to leave this role, I’m passionate about it, but feel stuck.
~ Work Woahs in Dallas
Caitlin, today’s Dear Ellie columnist, has all kinds of clarity for us:
Dear Wonder Woman,
I know how you feel.
I, myself, have felt discarded or overlooked in my career.
The truth is that it happens to all of us at key turning points, when we’re right at the edge of breaking through personal boundaries.
My first question to you is whether you can pin-point this as “from time-to-time” feelings, or whether it is a continuous feeling?
Feelings are fleeting and can drive even the most passionate worker into a spiral, thinking there must be a dramatic change for it to be fixed. That is just not the case.
Let’s also separate fact from feelings. You mentioned losing opportunities, what are they and have they actually been lost?
You have not lost anything that isn’t given away, so a gentle reminder to keep the long-term goals in mind for your role – even create some goal mile markers (I look at things in 3 – 6 months sprints to evaluate my path) – and then aim yourself, and your actions, to those goals.
This process brings empowerment to the darkest moments… and it ain’t too shabby to bring into a conversation with a manager/director/boss, proving why you should be the one for that next special project or assignment.
Feel the feelings of empowerment in that new position, and if it’s anything other than that, it’s merely fleeting thoughts that we all can face.
A clear vision with strong, empowering emotional attachment is your new focus.
Passion for a career is never overlooked so get back in the arena and show them why you’re the best!
Hugs + Lashes,
Ellie + Caitlin