It is scary as all get out when you like someone. Majority of the time, we all would rather keep it to ourselves and just let it disappear into nothingness. But some crushes call for more than just day dreams and could become reality.
I have a crush on my roommate and I don’t know if I should tell him…
What should I do? I want to be more than friends.
~On-the-Fence Olivia in Ohio
Caitlyn, today’s Dear Ellie columnist, has all kinds of clarity for us:
I really want all the details on this situation sis!
Have you been friends for a long time? When did you become roommates? Is there obvious chemistry that others pick up on?
Aside from me being nosy, my advice is to ABORT!!!
Nah, I’m just kidding. If you’re feeling something with this guy and you could see it turning into a relationship, go for it girl!
Deciding To Go For It
No one can tell you what to do, but if this is something you really want then I think you should definitely tell your crush. The worst thing that could happen is for him to say he doesn’t feel the same way.
Which brings up something else to consider before you tell him. Can you handle rejection? Do you think things would become uncomfortable? Whatever your crush ends up saying, you’re still going to be roommates.
After considering that, if you’re still thinking you want to tell him then this is how you should go about actually telling him.
Delivery of Feelings
First and foremost, make sure it’s just the two of you around. If it goes south, you don’t want a crowd around to see the aftermath. Second, start the conversation off by telling him that you’ve thought a lot about what you’re going to say. This is a good ‘screening’ of sorts to see how he will respond.
If he is still calm, cool, and collected – rip the band-aid off. Be completely honest and vulnerable about how you’re feeling. Be sure to acknowledge that you’re friends/roommates and understand if he doesn’t reciprocate the feelings.
I wish you all the luck in the world, girlfriend! Props to you for having the confidence and determination to get what you want.
‘Crush’ it! 😉
Hugs + Lashes,
Ellie + Caitlyn