Q: How can I stop stressing about interviews?

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Interviews can be extremely nerve-racking. And for good reason. You’re trying to land a new job with a new company. Everything about it is new to you. However, what good will stressing do?

Dear Ellie,

I have an interview tomorrow and I am freaking out to say the least. I can’t help but be nervous going into it. Unfortunately, it doesn’t end there. I’m always anxious before, during, AND after interviews.

How can I relieve some stress and stay a little calmer when it comes to interviews? 

~Stressed-Out Sarah in Seattle

Caitlyn, today’s Dear Ellie columnist, has all kinds of clarity for us:

Dear Interviewee in Training,

Congrats on the interview, first and foremost!! 

Try to focus on that! You got selected for an interview, which means someone likes you and sees potential! They wouldn’t have scheduled an interview if they didn’t think you would possibly be a good fit for the position. 

But if that still doesn’t give you a little relief of stress – keep reading. 

Before the Big Day

No matter what point in your career you’re at, you felt a connection to this position. So research it. Look into similar positions on LinkedIn and study their requirements, objectives, and everything in between. The more you feel you know about the job, the more confident you will be going into the interview. 

Research qualities online that will make a good fit for the position you are hoping to fill. Not only for the interview, but for yourself, you need to make sure this really will be a job that makes you happy.

The Dreaded Hour

Now, during the interview, try to remember the person (or people) sitting across from you are only human, just like you. They have their own problems, they have their own fears, they have their own challenges. Nothing makes them better or more superior than you.

Before each question take a deep breath. Then before every response, take a quick second to gather your thoughts. Try not to word vomit because your nerves are all over the place. Pace your breathing and imagine a sense of calmness throughout your entire body. I mean seriously, at least try to fake it till you make it.

The more confidence you portray, the more you will actually start to actually feel it!

Waiting to Hear Back

Last but not least, after the interview. All you have to think about and realize here, is that you can’t change anything that happened in the interview and whatever is supposed to happen, will. If it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be. And if unfortunately you don’t get the job, there are plenty more out there that are an even better fit for you. 

Waiting by the phone, or constantly checking your email won’t make the interviewers respond any faster, and will only add to your stress. However, if you feel it has been a considerable amount of time since the interview and you’ve heard nothing, a short email or phone call to follow up can never hurt. It might even show the company that you will take the initiative to get what you want.

So, as much as it is understandable to stress, try these life hacks to relieve just a little bit. It will only benefit you, I promise!

Hugs + Lashes,

Ellie + Caitlyn

Caitlyn Haynes
Mascara guru by day + artist by night. With a life just as crazy as her…Caitlyn manages to juggle family, friends, work, a social life, and everything in between. Caitlyn follows her passion (for art) through everything in her life and wants to help other women do the same.


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