As humans we inherently can be very hard on ourselves because of failure. But we need to realize that every failure teaches a lesson. These lessons will only benefit us later and bring us one step closer to success.
Hope Katz Gibbs- @hopekatzgibbs
PRESIDENT + FOUNDER, INKANDESCENT INC.
I’m Hope Katz Gibbs, founder of the PR and publishing company, Inkandescent Inc. I’ve been an entrepreneur for most of my career, as a freelance journalist and creator of several businesses. Most importantly, I’m the mom of Anna, 25, and Dylan, 21.
“Failing” is part of the game – and moms need to know that from the start. Here’s why:
First, I’d ask each mom to grab a sheet of paper and draw a line down the middle. On the left side, define what she considers to be a failure. On the right, what does she consider success? Pour everything out as it comes to mind. Take a break and come back to it a few hours later. Edit, add and then sit back and read the list.
My guess is that everything she thinks is a failure (not doing the dishes, letting the baby sit in a wet diaper for hours, letting them accidentally fall off the bed), is just what happens in the course of the day. This happens to us all. In the success side, I’m guessing she might list things like kissing the baby (or kid) a hundred times, knowing when they have a fever, or teaching them to ride a bike. For older kids, it may include making brownies together or helping them with their homework.
Being a good mom isn’t about being perfect. It’s about failing and filling your child, and your life, with love. So long as you set that as your intention, any failure pales in comparison to the amazing human you are helping to grow into an amazing adult. So let yourself off the hook, and stay in your heart and in your love. The rest will work itself out – especially those dirty dishes.
Lynell Ross- @testprepinsight
RESOURCE DIRECTOR, TEST PREP INSIGHT
My name is Lynell Ross. I am a Psychology-Trained Certified Health and Wellness Coach, Behavior Change Specialist, and Certified Life and Relationship Coach. I frequently write about the topic of success, failure and challenges as it relates to educational success.
There Is No Such Thing As Failure
We may have all felt the sting of losing out on a job we wanted, or burning a dinner. But wise people know there is no such thing as failure. When you make a mistake, find out what went wrong and learn from that mistake without getting down on yourself. No matter what you are aiming for, if you learn a new way of achieving your goal, you will either get there eventually. Or, you will find out what you wanted wasn’t right for you after all. If you made a mistake with your children, or in a relationship, be honest and have a talk with your loved one. Taking responsibility for your actions is the best way to correct a problem.
Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
As a Certified Health and Wellness Coach, one of the challenges I find most is helping women get over being so hard on themselves. Women have a tendency to compare everything they do to others, feeling like what they do is never good enough. While we are at work, we feel like we should be doing more at home. When we are taking time with our kids, we may feel like we are failing at work.
When you compare yourself to other people, you are running a race where you will always feel behind, and never allow yourself to catch up. Decide what kind of person you want to be, and live life based on your values without looking outside yourself for validation. You know in your heart what is right for you.
Do you best, and take the pressure off of yourself regarding failure.
Happy people are grateful for what they have, and grow through life by learning valuable lessons without being hard on themselves.
Moyra Michelle- @moyramichelle
HYPNOTHERAPY + HEALING
“If you are using your gift then you cannot fail” -Moyra Michelle
When you are on the right track, where you are supposed to be and doing what you love success is inevitable because we each have special unique gifts. We don’t get gifts so that we can fail at them; that’s not the way gifts work. Have confidence in yourself and in the process. Find what you are here to bring the world and go do that.
FOUNDER, FINDING BALANCE
Hi, my name is Lily Ugbaja. I am a blogger, lifestyle expert, and entrepreneur.
What I learned from failure is that it is not a full stop, it is only a comma, so get on with your life and succeed!
Naomi Morris – @ourkiwihomeschool
FOUNDER, OUR KIWI HOMESCHOOL
Lessons from failure are the building blocks of life, but we cannot hold onto them.
Know When To Move On From Failure
In many areas of life it’s important to know when to move on, and I have recently experienced that in my work/blogging life.
I have a pet website called PetNPat that I’ve lost all passion for. I love pets and have put a lot of work and money into the site, and there are over 100 articles promoting affiliate offers and giving general information.
However, the problem is that I don’t enjoy working in the niche and I’ve realized it’s time to move on to something I enjoy doing.
My latest project is Our Kiwi Homeschool – a site dedicated to sharing our homeschooling experiences and creating unique content and resources for the community.
Homeschooling is something I am definitely passionate about, plus I enjoy the process of creating content and prodcts!
I tried to love the pet website, but I think because I was not truly interested in it, the content is inauthentic and mundance.
That’s the lesson: if you’re not enjoying something and it’s failing, know when to let go and move on to the next thing.
Do some research and testing to make sure you’re not going to end up in the same position in another year, but be ready to turn towards that which makes you happy!
Fear Of Failure
Now, it is okay to fear failure, but we hope after reading these insights from women in our community you feel a tad more empowered. Failure is nothing to be afraid of, we need to embrace it and see it as a step in the right direction: towards success.